Safer sex

• For anal sex always use stronger condoms and plenty of water-based lubricant to help prevent tearing. Some stronger condoms to look out for include Durex ‘Ultra Strong’, Mates ‘Superstrong’, HT Special, Gay Safe and Hot Rubber.
• For oral sex, use a condom with a man. Some people use a dental dam (a thin latex square held over the genital area) with a woman. They create a barrier between the genital area (or anus) and mouth.

Condom talk

How do you suggest using a condom with a partner? Once you have decided to have sex, the earlier you discuss it, the less likely you are to get carried away and end up not using any protection.

Try to steer the conversation around to safer sex. You can then let your partner know what you think and see how they feel too. You could be pleasantly surprised. Your partner may find it just as difficult and would welcome the lead.

If you are worried about introducing the subject, why not try asking: Your condoms or mine?

It’s a good idea to carry your own condoms. Being prepared doesn’t mean planning to sleep around - it is a responsible thing to do and shows you take your sexual health seriously.

Safer sex with sex toys

• Put a condom over toys such as dildos or vibrators if you are both going to use them. Wash the sex toy and put on a new condom for each partner and activity. Do not use the same sex toy for vaginal sex after using it in the anal area, as you could transfer bacteria which may cause a vaginal infection.
• Kissing, stroking and masturbation usually carry no risk of infection.